Many of us understand that to attain our life’s goals and dreams we need to be totally committed, driven to succeed, set good goals, and never ever quit!
You can be totally committed and driven to succeed and think that you will never quit or fail, but if you are emotionally weak you will quit and fail every time! It doesn’t matter how much you think about not quitting or failing, you are still going to quit and fail.
Maybe your goal was to lose weight, gain a promotion, stay married, get married, find a job, deal with depression and anxiety, remain clean of drugs, etc. Whatever the goal was, eventually you set good goals, committed yourself to those goals, and began the journey to accomplish them.
At some point in the journey you were met with challenges and frustrations. Things didn’t go quite the way you expected them too. Progress wasn’t quite happening, or it wasn’t as fast as you wanted it to. You may have begun to experience pains and frustrations. You began to become overwhelmed and stressed.
At this point, you may have become angry at yourself or others. Maybe felt some pity. Eventually you began looking for a way out and began to make catastrophic choices that only resulted in more frustration. You were now headed straight forward on the road to quit and fail!
No one said life would be easy. In fact, any goal worthy of attaining will have grand challenges and frustrations that we all need to overcome in order to succeed. Mental Toughness is only half the equation. Emotional resiliency is the other!
Emotional resilience is the ability to adapt to stressful situations or crises. One component of emotional resilience is self-control. Self-control is the capacity to manage strong emotions and impulses rather than give into them; in other words, the ability to handle troublesome emotions.
As indicated previously, if you are emotionally weak you will quit and fail every time. The minute you start facing difficulty, a swarm of emotions comes up, you get frustrated or angry, and look to fail or sabotage your success.
Sheer willpower is not enough! You can continue to press on with tremendous willpower, but if you cannot manage those emotions and impulses you will fail and quit every time.
Developing emotional resilience or emotional strength allows you to face those difficult and strong emotions, process them, and reduce the impact of those emotions. Therefore, continuing the course towards your goals rather than beginning to crumble!
We truly are our own worst enemy. However, we can also become our greatest ally by developing our ability to manage our selves. Learn to manage your internal world first, then you will begin to see the outer success that you are looking for.
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Chris Swenson is a licensed Couple and Family Therapist currently accepting new consumers at his private practice counseling office here in Sterling, CO (Rhino Wellness Center). To contact Chris, you can call 970-522-0796 or send him an email at: firstname.lastname@example.org.