Many people assume that if they go to counseling they will somehow be viewed as “weak,” “incapable of solving problems on their own,” or are just plain “crazy.” Others are afraid that they may be seen as “worthless, flawed, or unlovable.”
When did going to get help become a serious attack on one’s character? I don’t know about you, but the problems of our world must love these beliefs! Namely because they prevent people from getting help and feeling better which allows the problem to continue to get worse and make more problems for people.
The truth…..People who go to counseling improve four times as much as those who do not seek counseling. This has been scientifically proven over and over and over again! Yet, people continue to decide to not seek help, continue to wallow in their suffering, and continue to struggle.
I don’t know about you, but suffering and struggling are two thing I really don’t enjoy. Even more ludicrous is choosing to continue to suffer and struggle despite knowing a solution that may help!
Oh, I understand… it is tough struggling and suffering, but going to counseling may result in being seen as “crazy” or “inferior,” and you wouldn’t want that! (stated sarcastically)
If only you could get a glimpse of who really goes to counseling, then you probably wouldn’t have so many issues with going.
The reality is the majority of people who go to counseling are ordinary, everyday people dealing with ordinary, everyday problems! They have serious life challenges or are going through difficult life transitions that may be taxing their ability to cope. These challenges may be adversely affecting their ability to function at a level they desire.
Examples of such challenges: work-related stressors, career issues, financial problems, health issues, stress, family or parent/child conflicts, academic issues, death of loved ones, relationship breakups, divorce, relationship struggles, and major life decisions related to life choices. Others are simply seeking to grow and become better as a person. Or, are just not sure of what to do and have noticed their way of reacting is creating more problems.
These are just some of the reasons why people decide to go to counseling. So, if you are going through one or more of these challenges at the same time, you’re not alone. The effects are often cumulative, which is generally referred to as a “pile-up” of stressors. Counseling during these times can be quite helpful in providing both the support and skills to better address these life challenges.
You see, ordinary, everyday people dealing with ordinary, everyday problems! The idea that people seeking help for normal, common issues are somehow flawed couldn’t be further from the truth! The truth is going to counseling is an invaluable investment in your emotional, physical, and mental health, an act of courage not weakness, and a gift to those whose lives you touch each and every day.
If you have any comments or questions regarding this article, please feel free to contact me via email at firstname.lastname@example.org. I am very appreciative of those that have responded in the past. I invite all of you to feel free to respond and share the articles with as many others as you see fit.
Chris Swenson is a licensed Couple and Family Therapist currently accepting new consumers at his private practice counseling office here in Sterling, CO (Rhino Wellness Center). To contact Chris, you can call 970-522-0796 or send him an email at: email@example.com.