“When we allow negative messages to fester in our head, they take on a life of their own.” Lolly Daskal


Our mental mindset and behaviors have a great impact upon the quality of our lives. We want the best, but there are 10 types of cancers out there that seek to deplete the quality of our lives.


Without being aware of those cancers, you will continue to fall prey to their tricks and continue to sabotage the quality of your life.


These cancers have a way of influencing us to behave and think in ways that are counterproductive with having a great life.


Whenever we engage in those behaviors and thoughts we are playing right into their hands and the cancers smile with an evil grin.


Learning to challenge and beat these cancers requires you to develop awareness of what those cancers are and then choose not to play their games!


The following is a list of 10 of these cancers, see if you can identify if any of these cancers are stealing quality and joy from your life:


  1. Criticizing – This is one of the four horsemen of a relationship apocalypse. If found in your relationship or workplace, take care immediately. Try to go for one week, or even one day without criticizing and you will see and feel how much quality is stolen from your life.


  1. Controlling and manipulative – Careful with this one as it seeks to convince you that controlling or manipulating another is part of a supervisory, parental, or power position. Don’t believe this for one bit! Remember, if your influence over another only contributes to your betterment it is always wrong; there cannot be a win-lose scenario, otherwise quality has been stolen!


  1. Condemning – This one is the chief of the four horsemen of a relationship apocalypse. If found in your relationship or workplace, immediate action is required. If not, it won’t be long until your relationship or workplace is dead! Passing judgment upon others without full information is the highest form of ignorance.


  1. Arrogance – If you see yourself as truly superior to others, then you better be sure to question every thought before speaking it or acting on it because you have truly become DELUSIONAL!


  1. Always being right – If you have been around someone who always needs to be right, you understand and can feel how this cancer depletes the relationship. The remedy is to learn to catch yourself thinking this way and then seek to understand the situation from the other person’s point of view.


  1. Overworking – I don’t know about you, but for me I never felt really great any time I overworked. In fact, I seemed to miss out on other things that would have been enjoyable. Be ever watchful for this little demon.


  1. Procrastination – Trust me, the perfect moment will never come! The hardest part of anything is the beginning, get over it. Start where you are. Use what you have. Do what you can. Just don’t let this bugger convince you to wait for the perfect time because it will never come.


  1. Worrying – I still fall victim to this one from time to time, but I am getter better at catching it. Every time I fall victim to this one the results are always the same: stress, anxiety, insomnia, headaches, and stomach aches along with other not so fun feelings.


  1. Gossip – This one can be crazy because we all seem to agree that it is wrong, but so many of us continue to play right along with it. Don’t talk ABOUT people, talk TO people!


  1. Blaming – Wow, this one may have become America’s pet cancer. Robs us of personal responsibility and accountability and can even make us fall prey to becoming victim to the situation. Just remember, whenever you point a finger at someone, there is always three pointing right back! Like it or not, that is the fact.


Now that you have been warned of these cancers, it is your job to be ever watchful for these little gremlins in your relationships, work environments, and your mind!




Chris Swenson is a licensed Couple and Family Therapist currently helping people rid these life depleting cancers from their lives and relationships at his private practice counseling office in Sterling, CO (Rhino Wellness Center). To contact Chris, you can call 970-522-0796 or schedule an appointment online at