The climb might be tough and challenging, but the view is worth it. There is purpose for that pain; you just can’t always see it right away. – Victoria Arlen
Many times throughout your life you will deal with stress and the struggles of life. There will be events in your lifetime that will hit so hard you will end up spiraling out of control, eventually feeling the pain of being knocked down, and left feeling broken and shattered.
It is during these hard dark times that you will be left dazed and confused about how to get out of this mess and back in the fight of life.
Having a Rhino mentality, or simply being a Rhino, doesn’t make you immune to the stress and struggles of life. Rhino’s also experience those dark times, however, they seem to have an internal compass (an internal GPS) that provides a light during these times of darkness.
That internal GPS is their sense of purpose which provides a sense of direction during the darkest of times. Once you are able to develop your purpose in life, you will now be armed with the latest in psychological GPS technology!
Without a sense of purpose, life’s darkest events will knock you around like a pinball bouncing around out of control. However, with a sense of purpose, you are now poised to utilize the pounding and shifting to send you hurling even faster towards your purpose.
Rhinos are people who understand that dark moments in life do not need to be debilitating. Rather, they USE the event to make them stronger and wiser which leads them closer to their purpose.
They seem to heal and recover with a sense of purpose. There is a difference between just healing and recovering and healing and recovering with a sense of purpose and direction.
Healing and recovering without a purpose is the epitome of the pinball experience described above.
Healing with a sense of purpose allows you to find meaning in the struggle, to understand that all the blows and pounding are constantly forging and molding you to be a better person. Plus, when you do heal and recover (and you will) you will now be stronger and wiser to really take on life and get back in that fight again!
How do you develop your purpose? Your purpose essentially is the “why” of your life. It describes what is important to you and what kind of person you want to be.
Go ahead, take a risk, and sit down to write your purpose today. Maybe you will describe the purpose in a few sentences or maybe a few paragraphs. Just remember, YOUR purpose must be YOURS not someone else’s. In other words, it must be an intrinsic motivating purpose (from inside of you) that is meaningful and moving for you.
Over time, you will adjust some of the wording as you grow and change; so don’t write it in concrete unless you want to be stuck in there with them.
Connecting to your purpose is the first step in being able to show resiliency and strength in the face of dark times. So don’t delay, begin to uncover your purpose today!
Chris Swenson is a licensed therapist currently helping people heal and recover at his private practice counseling office in Sterling, CO (Rhino Wellness Center). To contact Chris, you can call 970-522-0796 or schedule an appointment online at www.rhinowellnesscenter.com